Falling in love is a magical experience that happens between two people. Falling in love can either be a flash of emotions or a first step towards true love.

Falling in love is a strong instinctive attraction to the person of the opposite sex. If it’s mutual, both lovers will work at their relationships to nurture it into real love. Falling in love is crazy, it’s very physical, it’s when knees become weak and temperature rises.

You have to do nothing to fall in love and often either is there anything you can do to stop falling in love. It’s very illogical. You suffer from splashes of emotions, doubts, can’t fully control yourself and it’s all because of a person you usually almost don’t know.

When we fall in love, nature goes against our senses even when we understand that we can’t expect anything good from these relationships, that it’s the wrong person but there is still nothing we can do about it.

We usually fall in love with the appearance of a person, with the way he or she walks, the way he or she talks, the way he or she makes us laugh. Sometimes, we impute to our object of love some ideal qualities and the more we get to know that person the less we fall for him or her. That’s when the feeling disappears ever faster than it appeared.

We may call falling in love some kind of a temporary illness both mental and physical and won’t be very wrong. Some will say that it’s destructive, selfish, possessive or blind. But have those people ever been in love? Because if they have, they would know that it differs from any other illness in a very essential way – it can be very pleasant.

It is a mystery why we fall in love. It is a mystery how it happens. It is a mystery when it comes. It is a mystery why some love grows and it is a mystery why some love fails.

You can analyze this mystery and look for reasons and causes, but you will never do anymore that take the life out of the experience. Just as life itself is a gift that comes and goes in its own time, so too, the coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift that cannot be questioned in any way.

Sometimes, hopefully at least once in your life - the gift of love will come to you. This is the dream we all share. More often, it will come and take hold of you, celebrate with you for a brief moment, then move on.

When this happen, most people often try to grasp the love and hold on to it, refusing to see that it is a gift that just as freely, moves away. When they fall out of love or the person they love feels the spirit of love leaving, they try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost rather than accepting the gift for what it was, then moving on.

They want answers where there are no answers. They want to know what is wrong in them that make the other person no longer love them. Or they try to make changes, thinking that if some things were different, love would bloom again. They try everything to give meaning to what has happened. But there is no meaning beyond the love itself and until they accept the mystery of love, they live in a sea of miseries.

You need to know this about love and accept it. You need to treat what it brings you with kindness. If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart.

If you find someone in love with you but you don't love him or her back, feel honoured that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage; do not cause pain.

If you fall in love with another and he or she falls in love with you but then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it nor to assign blame. Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time.

Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. Love has its time, its own season, its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it, coerce it or reason it into staying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you. But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do. Love always has been and always will be a mystery.

Indeed, be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life and if you keep you heart open, it will come again.